I’m not going to post all the various emails, and detail all the conversations, but I talked to two of my older brothers, Ember, and Catalyst about how to respond to my father’s email, and the final tactic decided on has been stalling (with a strong undercurrent of trying to lay a foundation of “Actually, your kids are independent and can do what they want”). I think there’s a good chance there will end up being a gap in how I handle my parents, and I will end up coming out to my mother before my father, but we’ll see.
The best thing about all this is remembering that although I’m putting out this strong persona of independence and self-reliance, I do have people I can go to for non-judgmental help. I’m independent but not alone. Of course I can count on Ember and Catalyst for this, but knowing that my older brothers have got my back too is pretty awesome. :)