I’m not going to post all the various emails, and detail all the conversations, but I talked to two of my older brothers, Ember, and Catalyst about how to respond to my father’s email, and the final tactic decided on has been stalling (with a strong undercurrent of trying to lay a foundation of “Actually, your kids are independent and can do what they want”). I think there’s a good chance there will end up being a gap in how I handle my parents, and I will end up coming out to my mother before my father, but we’ll see.

The best thing about all this is remembering that although I’m putting out this strong persona of independence and self-reliance, I do have people I can go to for non-judgmental help. I’m independent but not alone.  Of course I can count on Ember and Catalyst for this, but knowing that my older brothers have got my back too is pretty awesome. :)

4 thoughts on “Stalling

    • Thank you! :) I’m feeling better about everything at the moment. I know there will be rough patches again, but for now I’m feeling back to normal.

  1. I’m so glad your brothers are behind you in this. It’s so good to have the support of people close to you – internet strangers can only help so much. :p

    I recommend liberal doses of “That’s not your business,” “This is a decision I need to make for myself,” and “Thanks, I’ll think about it” (combined with thinking about it for two seconds, deciding it’s ridiculous, and doing what you want anyway).

    Good luck! :)

    • Well, internet strangers definitely helped me through high school! =D But yes, the support of blood relatives is wonderful.

      My mother is starting to catch on to my “Uh huh. Yup. I understand. I’ll think about it.” routine, so I’m going to have to step up to the level of your first two suggestions soon!

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