“Good hope gets you through the worst. Bad hope steers you in the wrong direction.”
This was told to me in the context of a conversation about parents with sick children, but hope is a fairly universal phenomenon, and I also think that there are a lot of things that you can substitute in for hope in this sentence, like relationships, for example. It is my belief that a good relationship is one where both people feel nourished, that provides a sense of security and confidence that allows each person to explore the world and grow and become all the more awesome and worthy of love. A good relationship has at its core a safe space, but it is not something that leads to complacency and a stagnant existence.
I’ve been guilty of something like bad hope. I’ve being foolishly optimistic in a harmful way more than once in the past, and I’m trying to be more mindful of that tendency, to admit defeat when necessary, without completely destroying my hope.